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jemima — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 12:10:22 +0000

Patience

jemima — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:48:25 +0000

Don’t Complain

jemima — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 12:00:28 +0000

No one wants to hear it.

When you complain, you just anger others.

Complaining is always hurtful because it adds stress and pressure to an already problematic situation.

Others have a gut reaction to your complaining. It grates on their nerves. They want to shut you off and push you away.

Complainers are like childish passengers, continually whining, “Are we there yet?” They aggravate others by increasing stress and frustration and by creating distracting resentment that interferes with productivity.

It is no wonder that complaining makes you seem inadequate and damages your credibility.

People complain most about what they don’t want to do or feel they can’t do for themselves. So complaining also shows that you are not in charge and reveals your lack of patience and inability to act for yourself.

Complaining creates the wrong atmosphere for making a change.

It is better to ask a question couched in friendly and helpful terms such as, “Is there any way I can help?” Every complaint can be rephrased in this way.

If you complain when someone asks you to do something, it spoils the effect of doing what you’ve been asked.

When you complain, you are really protesting against your own powerlessness and helplessness.

The weaknesses you can’t face in yourself are what you complain about most in others.

I take responsibility for my life.

I have the power to make things better.

I always have a choice.

What do you see?

jemima — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 22:04:15 +0000

Seek the Good in Others

jemima — Mon, 05 Oct 2009 13:45:10 +0000

This is not about being a do-gooder.

It is about being smart, efficient and productive.

It is about making your life easy.

When you look for the good in others, they show it to you.

When you appreciate their worth, others find it easy to be their best.

When you accept others, they do not fear rejection. They show their strengths instead of concealing their weaknesses. They act confident instead of afraid.

Other people want someone to notice that they are good and valuable. They want to belong and be thought of as special.

They need someone to believe in them.

Looking forthe good is that belief.

Look for the good in the other person, especially when he or she has been troublesome, did wrong, or is on probation. Do not ignore his or her problems, but continue to encourage the good.

Anyone who doubts can find failings.

Finding the good takes belief.

When you bring out the good in someone, you often discover a powerful ally, a loyal worker, a true friend.

The search for the good is its own reward.

The discovery of that good is never forgotten.

When you look for the good in others, you often discover your own best and find another reason to believe in yourself.

~ I rejoice in all the good I discover ~

Don’t take it Personally

jemima — Thu, 24 Sep 2009 01:39:05 +0000

People are selfish. They are wrapped up in their own world.They don’t notice your suffering or celebrate your success.

Don’t take it personally.

Disinterest seems to be the way of the world. This is neither wrong nor right, neither good nor bad. It simply is the way it is.

Think how it would be if people did notice every time you did something wrong. They would point it out to you. They would confuse you with suggestions. They would anger you with their instructions. It would be harder to make corrections and move on.

Don’t take it personally when a stranger gets angry at you; assume that it has nothing to do with you. He had been holding in his feelings a long time before you came into his life.

Don’t take it personally when your neighbor complains about your dog, when your car breaks down right after you had it fixed, or when your computer fails and important data are lost.

The negativity that you choose to react to is only a sounding board for what you feel inside. These same events would have happened whether you were there or not. If you did not feel bad about yourself, you never would have taken the events of the world so personally.

The outside world has nothing to do with you.

The world is within you – all the caring, all the sublime inspiration, all the doubt.

The way you react to the world only reflects how you feel about yourself.

Protected: Truly Thankful

jemima — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 14:20:31 +0000

…what else are we missing?

jemima — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 12:03:19 +0000

This is the best true story being experimented.

Washington, DC Metro Station on a cold January morning. A man with a violin plays six Bach pieces for about 45 minutes. During that time approx. 2 thousand people passed through the station, most of them on their way to work. After 3 minutes a middle-aged man noticed there was a musician playing. He slowed his pace and stopped for a few seconds and then hurried to meet his schedule.

4 minutes later:
The violinist received his first dollar: a woman threw the money in the hat and, without stopping, continued to walk.

6 minutes:
A young man leaned against the wall to listen to him, then looked at his watch and started to walk again.

10 minutes:
A 3-year old boy stopped but his mother tugged him along hurriedly. The kid stopped to look at the violinist again, but the mother pushed hard and the child continued to walk, turning his head all the time. This action was repeated by several other children. Every parent, without exception, forced their children to move on quickly.

45 minutes:
The musician played continuously. Only 6 people stopped and listened for a short while. About 20 gave money but continued to walk at their normal pace. The man collected a total of $32.

1 hour:
He finished playing and silence took over. No one noticed. No one applauded, nor was there any recognition.

No one knew this, but the violinist was Joshua Bell, one of the greatest musicians in the world. He played one of the most intricate pieces ever written, with a violin valued at $3.5 million dollars. Two days before, Joshua Bell sold out a theater in Boston where the price of seats averaged $100.

This is a true story. Joshua Bell playing incognito in the metro station was organized by the Washington Post as part of a social experiment about perception, taste and people’s priorities. The questions raised: in a commonplace environment at an inappropriate hour, do we perceive beauty? Do we stop to appreciate it? Do we recognize talent in an unexpected context?

One possible conclusion reached from this experiment could be this: If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world, playing some of the finest music ever written, with one of the most beautiful instruments ever made… what else are we missing?

Must Read & Watch: Pearls Before Breakfast

Unity?

jemima — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 21:59:47 +0000

Is there a possibility ?

Mother Teresa said, “Go home and love your family”.

Peace & Unity to All.

I’ve been telling myself…

jemima — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 08:49:08 +0000