December 30, 2006
Listen. When other people are talking, let them express their thoughts, their opinions, and their feelings, especially their feelings. Don’t just let them talk; listen to what they are saying. Pay attention. Try to understand.
Listen. You don’t have to agree. As a matter of fact, whether you agree or not should be beside the point. Don’t express your opinions or feelings while someone else is expressing his or hers. Do you have a problem with that? Do you feel you need to express your opinion, that you must make your feelings known? When others are speaking, you won’t be heard anyway, and you’ll just lose points for trying.
Listen without waiting for an opportunity to give your side, or pounce on the other person, or correct his or her mistakes. The other person’s reasoning and information is surely full of mistakes and distortions. So what? So is yours.
Listen in sincere silence. It won’t kill you. You don’t need to prove your point. Just listen. Everyone thinks a good listener is smart.
Listen. You don’t need to persuade the other person, just understand. If you don’t, ask, “Could you explain that?” or “What do you really mean?” But don’t give your opinion while the person is talking. Just let him or her talk.
The good listener hears the unspoken thought. Listen for it. When the other person is finished, mention that inner thought. The other person will know you heard and understood.
Then the situation will become quiet because the other person will be listening to your hearing. All the pressure will fade and you can get on with life.
Listen. There is nothing quite like being heard.
I listen to the space between the words others speak. I live in silence where knowing dwells. I make room for life by creating stillness.
Personal Note: Just when I needed someone to listen…… you were there. Thank you for listening, babe.. HUGS!
December 29, 2006
It was 5 months ago today that I started blogging. This weekend marks the end of another eventful year in my life. What I am most thankful for in 2006 is my heart – for it has been my wise and faithful guide.
I am truly blessed with the wisdom of my loving heart. Love is a form of listening and I have listened with a loving heart to each and everyone of you. When I listened to the love within my heart, I could hear the love in yours.
My heart has tenderly and truly guided me – and I managed to find my ways through the wilderness.
My heart is valiant and wise because it sensed the truth and offered me compassion in times of conflict.
My heart has patience & humility. It is fully human and it holds the world in tender awe. As I listened to my heart, I was able to love humanly with wisdom.
Recently, a good friend told me that I am wiser than I know, kinder than I believe. I asked my heart. It confirmed that I am loving and compassionate to others and myself.
I don’t think both my friend & my heart would lie to me, do you??? 😉
“Where there is love, there is life.”
– M. Gandhi –
December 28, 2006
A good friend had told me “Jemima, if you feel a little special this Christmas, it’s only because you are!”
Now I know that I really am!
Please click this link and you’ll know what I mean.
“No love, no friendship..can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever.”
– Francois Mauriac –
Thank you, Daniel.
Painting: “Rhapsody” by Carrie Graber
December 27, 2006
Life is filled with events that cause human beings to feel stress, a natural chemical reaction to adverse situations. Properly channelled and regulated, stress can help us be more productive, energetic, and alive.
Ride Out the Storm
We can choose to accept some stress as a natural by-product of being fully alive. With patience and faith, we wait out the storms of turbulence and imbalance in our lives, knowing that peaceful days and nights are just around the corner.
Accepting Our Purpose in Life
It’s tempting to ask, “Why me?” when suffering and stress consume our days. Through thoughtful prayer, we can move beyond self-pity to acceptance. By making acceptance a daily habit, we can focus on the positive in life as irritation and negativity fade away. When we let go of uphill battles we can experience the serenity of acceptance.
“Visualize a thunderstorm. Before it arrives, the clouds gather in the hot, muggy heavens. Discomfort and unease fill the air. Then lightning strikes, thunder crashes, and rain pounds. Life is tense and uncertain. But when it’s over, life is calm. You can feel the relief. The earth is nourished and cooled.”
– Molly Wigand, Heavenly Ways to Handle Stress –
This post is for a good friend who has always been bubbly, active & full of life. I never thought that this friend would ever be under so much stress & anxiety. I just want my friend to know that in our busy lives & though we are miles apart, I will always be here & I’m always ready to help relieve my friend’s stress.
December 26, 2006
Life is made up of little things. Big events like births, graduations, weddings, family reunions at Christmas and other milestones of life are important, but the greatest percentage of life is lived in the daily round.
When you open your eyes in the morning, be fully aware of how good the bed feels. Enjoy the simple pleasures of the day – a friend’s laughter, the sun breaking through the clouds, a phonecall from a friend, a favourite song on the radio or a friend’s hug.
Just before you go to sleep, think about the small delights of your day and be thankful for them.
I take delight in the small gifts & blessings given to me every day.