Recognize when You are Loved

January 15, 2007

The person who loves you.. loves you because he or she loves you.

That is it. No further explanations are needed.

No explanations make sense of love anyway.

When there is a powerful reason, a burning need for someone to love you, then the love that results is precarious and can suddenly disappear.

 The people who cling to you may make you feel secure, even powerful at first, but in time their love will smother you and you’ll reject them.

The people who rescue you will end up controlling you, and you’ll come to hate yourself for being weak and susceptible to being bought off so cheaply.


The people who flatter you act on the belief that you cannot tell the difference between real love and fawning. They insult your intelligence, and you only believe them when you are desperately insecure.

The love that is most powerful exists for itself, without reasons, conditions, or excuses.

When you find someone who loves you because of the person you are, the way you do things, your humor, your personality, or because this person likes the way he or she feels about himself or herself in your presence, be true to this person.

This person mirrors your best.


I do not try to be accepted. I do not search for love. I want only to be me and am grateful for the gift of myself.

Paintings: “Midnight Rendezvous” & ” Evening In Blues” by Carrie Graber


10 Responses to “Recognize when You are Loved”

  1. zeroimpact Says:

    There is no reason to love
    There is no love that needs reasons
    Love thyself and be loved
    When you are loved for thyself
    It will be the best thing that could ever happen
    Treasure and cherish them for they love
    They love with may be a simple reason
    The reason of love itself
    Nothing more, nothing less

    Thanks, Matt.

  2. Well said … very well said. Enough said about it.

    Thank you, Moz. 🙂

  3. Kewl! I like that post. 🙂

    Thank you, Dabs. 🙂

  4. merv Says:

    Reminds me of that Jerry McGuire line, “You complete me” Hehehehe

    “Shut up. Just shut up. You had me at ‘hello.'”

    Hehehe… Thank you, Merv. 🙂

  5. nyonyapenang Says:

    many a time, we look but we don’t SEE.

    Or we touch but don’t feel…

  6. Lil Says:

    love bows not to dictates nor one’s desire to love – just got to open your heart, take the risk and dare to love 🙂

    Thank you for your wise advice, Lil. 🙂

  7. ian Says:

    I like this post very much too. Thanks!

    You’re most welcome, Ian. 😀

  8. tihtahpah Says:

    many of us fail to recognize love when it comes….thanks for giving us a little reminder 🙂

    The pleasure’s all mine. 🙂

  9. Gab Says:

    as easy as spelling bee, it’s the hardest most complex thing to decipher and understand. the words are so so true Jemima. thanks for this wonderful post or else i’ll be lost, wondering what have gone wrong for me. 🙂

    Welcome back, Gab. 😀

    No problem, my friend.. & you know very well inside your heart that there’s nothing wrong with you.

  10. deuane taylor Says:

    you are on track, real love loves you for all of who you are and no matter what, there is no condition attached, true loves loves because it natural to do so, it requires nothing but you are the object to be loved.
    love is………….


    Deuane, thank you for your kind & touching words.

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