When a Dark Memory Returns

February 28, 2007

Don’t fight it.

Permit the intrusion without regret.

Let the memory or old feeling have its way with you.

The sadness of a lost love, a rebuke or betrayal, or a hurt that cut deeply left you wounded. It returns, takes your breath away, gives you pause.

Measure the depth of the hurt, but from the safe distance time provides.

Know that because the hurt is past, the resentment will cool.

Don’t push the painful feeling or memory away.

If you let it through without resisting it, it will pass.

Push it away and it will build, seeking the expression it needs to relieve the old pressure.

That is the way of old pain, pressing to the surface till it fades. Old pain comes in waves.

How can you stop a wave?

Ride the reappearance of your old emotions, but don’t try to hold them back. You’ll use up your energy, lose faith in yourself, doubt your strength and wholeness, and ruin your day.

Let the old hurt pass, acknowledging all that it means, and in a moment it will be gone. The hurt is diminished, and so is the likelihood of return.

The moment is returned to you.


I allow my memories to return and have their way.

I let the past replay but do not live in it.

I let old feelings flow through me on their way to peace.

I accept all that I was, all that has been.

I accept all of it – all of me.

Take Responsibility

February 27, 2007

If things turn out badly, you’ll probably be blamed, so take responsibility now and make events go the way you want.

When you don’t take responsibility, you give up control to others. Others never have your real interests at heart because they really don’t know you. And if they did, why should they do what you won’t do for yourself? Make your interests known to yourself and take action.

Take responsibility for everything that you have done and for everything you have avoided doing. It’s the first step toward being free.


The greatest gift you can give children is to let them take responsibility for themselves.

Whenever you take responsibility for other people, you limit their growth. They may be grateful initially, but the more responsibility you take, the more they will resent you.

Take responsibility for knowing how you feel, what you need, and what you want. Unless you do, yes and no are meaningless words.

Take responsibility for everything that has happened to you, that shaped you, whether you caused it or not.

You’re responsible for suffering.

You’re responsible for living happily ever after.

The responsibility that you accept ceases to be a burden.

You may not be responsible for what happened to you, but you are responsible for what you feel about it and how you reacted toward it.

I am responsible for everything in my life.

I am responsible for what I was.

I am responsible for what I will become.

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Who helped Me?

February 26, 2007

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love.

One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all prepared their boats and left.

Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help.

Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat.Love said, “Richness, can you take me with you?”

Richness answered, “No, I can’t. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you.”

Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, “Vanity, please help me!”

“I can’t help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat.” Vanity answered.

Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, “Sadness, let me go with you.”

“Oh…. Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!”

Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!


Suddenly, there was a voice, “Come Love, I will take you.” It was an elder.

Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went his own way.

Love realized how much he owed the elder and asked Knowledge, another elder, “Who helped me?”

“It was Time,” Knowledge answered.

“Time?” asked Love. “But why did Time help me?”

Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, “Because, only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is.”


February 25, 2007

Tears are falling on your pillow
And as the sun begins to rise
Your dreams are fading into daybreak
And sadness listens softly in your eyes
You can’t escape the sound of sorrow
But listen hard and you will hear
Birds are waking up the morning
With songs to make your heart ache disappear

Smile when you are lonely
Even when it’s harder to pretend
Smile a little only knowing that your tears will have an end
Sorridi e senti la luce
come illumina la vita
Smile and everything will turn out right

We all have days that overwhelm us
And we just feel like giving in
But raise a smile and face the challenge
As happiness can wash away the pain
And if the walls should fall around you
And you’re hurting deep inside
A smile will help to make the sunshine
And you can leave the loneliness behind

Smile when you are lonely
Even when it’s harder to pretend
Smile a little only knowing that your tears will have an end
Sorridi e senti la luce
come illumina la vita
Smile and everything will turn out right

Sorridi e senti la luce
come illumina la vita
Smile and watch you troubles drift away
Smile and you can face another day



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February 24, 2007

“I think you are trying to control me.” 

I never did. You’ve always been free. You still are and you’ll always be.


Man is free the moment he wishes to be.  – Voltaire –

Painting: “Icarus Fallen” by Julianna