February 15, 2007
What is the point of keeping your hurt alive? To justify your anger?
That is not a good place to live – a mind that is filled with hate, and you are frozen in hatred when you don’t forgive.
You don’t want to forgive? You probably have good reasons, a long list of good reasons. Without arguing with the fact that you were hurt, why is it that you are the one who is still suffering?
Forgiving is letting go of your hurt.
If you are holding onto your pain because you want to show the person who hurt you how much damage he or she caused you, or if you act in a self-defeating way, always courting failure, allowing success to slip through your life, displaying your hurt by playing the role of a damaged person, perhaps you are making a big mistake.
If the person who hurt you could be influenced by your suffering to feel guilt and remorse and make amends to you, he or she would most likely be the kind of person who never would have hurt you in the first place.
Life always gets complicated when you conceal your hurt and wait for people to come and apologize. Your withheld hurt turns into anger and makes you victimize yourself.
If you expect others to make repairs, you are always disappointed.
You need to forgive as much as you deserve to be forgiven.
You need to forgive if ever you are to love again.
I release my hurt. I allow the past to fade.
I am here. My pain is gone.
Painting: “Solitude” by Carrie Graber