On my own

March 30, 2007

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I’m wiser now
I’m not the foolish girl you used to know
So long ago
I’m stronger now
I’ve learned from my mistakes which way to go
And I should know

I put myself aside to do it your way
But now I need to do it all alone

And I am not afraid to try it on my own
I don’t care if I’m right or wrong
I’ll live my life the way I feel
No matter what I’ll keep it real
You know
Time for me to do it on my own, yeah, yeah

Mmm…
Yeah, yeah

It’s over now
I can’t go back to living through your eyes
Too many lies
And if you don’t know by now
I can’t go back to being someone else
Not any more

I never had the chance to do things my way
So now it’s time for me to take control

And I am not afraid to try it on my own
I don’t care if I’m right or wrong
I’ll live my life the way I feel
No matter what I’m gonna keep it real
You know
Time for me to do it, oh

I’ll start again, go back to one
I’m runnin’ things in my way
Can’t stop me now, I’ve just begun
Don’t even think about it, there ain’t no way about it
I’m takin’ names, the world is mine
Yes, I’m gonna take my time
It’s time for me to finally to stand alone
Stand alone

I’m not afraid to try it on my own
And I don’t care if I’m right or wrong
I’ll live my life the way I feel
No matter what I’m gonna keep it real
You know
It’s time for me to do it

See, I’m not afraid to try it on my own
And I don’t care if I’m right or wrong
I’ll live my life the way I feel
No matter what I’m gonna keep it real
You know
It’s time for me to do it on my own

Hey…hey…
On, on my own

Click here to listen to Whitney Houston’s “Try It On My Own”

Related Link: Today’s Prayer

Painting: “Along the horse trail” by Carrie Graber

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We’re Only Human

March 29, 2007

Being human has never been an easy task.

Our humanity makes us vulnerable to heartbreak, disappointment, and regret.

Our expectations of ourselves, along with the expectations others have for us, can be difficult or even impossible to meet.

By embracing our imperfections and limitations, we grow to accept ourselves.

We ease our sadness when we allow ourselves to make (and learn from) our human mistakes.

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“Life is like playing a violin in public..

and learning the instrument as one goes on.”

– Samuel Butler –

Express your Hurt

March 27, 2007

The surest way to become unhappy is to keep your hurt inside.

If there is a secret to mental health, this is it: tell the people who hurt you that they hurt you when they hurt you.

Hurt is the pain of the moment. Hurt is happening right now. Its cause is right in front of you. Hurt speaks for itself, motivating you to limit your pain.

Anxiety is pain in the future. It may happen, and then again, it may not. Anxiety inspires you to get out of the way of danger.

Withheld hurt turns into anger. Anger helps you to express your hurt by energizing you to protect yourself.

When you hold in hurt, you redirect your anger at yourself. Such inward anger is called guilt. It serves no positive purpose. It only makes you think of getting even, fills your head with bad thoughts, and erodes your self-confidence as you begin to doubt your goodness.

Obviously the only anger that makes sense is still attached to the hurt that caused it.

You need to learn to express your hurt as it happens.

Telling someone how he or she hurt you can be risky, because the person who hurt you is probably someone you care about.

What if the other person calls you “oversensitive” or tells you that your hurt is unimportant and doesn’t take your feelings seriously?

If the other person doesn’t care about your feelings, he or she doesn’t care about you. The sooner you know this, the better. Why waste more time?

What if the other person says he or she hurt you out of anger because of being hurt by you? It’s a good time to discover the truth, clear the air, and become friends again.

What if the other person can’t remember hurting you or simply denies that the hurtful event ever took place?

He or she may be telling the truth, because most people do not hurt others intentionally. When you are silent it is sometimes hard for others to recognize that you’ve been hurt.

Expressing your hurt sometimes puts your love or friendship on the line. It always tests your love for yourself.

It is always the right thing to do in any relationship that you value.

Express your hurt as simply and as directly as possible when you first notice it.

Tell the other person how you were hurt. You can mention that you are angry, but don’t display the anger or attack. That will only hurt the other person, who won’t be able to listen, making matters worse.

Whatever you do, don’t allow your hurt to age.

If you cannot express your hurt to another person, you cannot express your love, for old anger blocks positive feelings.

If you value your love, you need to express your hurt.

Holding in hurt is the way that love dies.

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I show my hurt when I am hurt..

so I can feel love the rest of the time.

Down…

March 25, 2007

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but still standing…

Dear Matthew, Thank you for your text this evening. You can say whatever you want ‘coz as you said I will always be like that. I sincerely wish you & your one and only SAYANG, Caren every happiness always.

“When you are rotten about yourself,

you become rotten to everyone else,

even those you love.”

– Mitch Albom, “For One More Day” –

My dearest friends… I woke up feeling very sick this morning… just some viruses who refuse to leave. I will go to the doc if I don’t feel any better tomorrow. I’m off to bed now. Goodnight & Cheerio!!!

A cuppa, anyone?

March 24, 2007

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Have a relaxing & great weekend! 🙂