Can’t Change

March 14, 2007

No person can change the other unless the other person is willing to change oneself.

The gate of change opens from within!

Others can only knock at the gate, plead, or shout but by no means can open it – unless and until one is willing to open it from inside.

The other person can only create an environment of awareness but can’t change a person against his or her wish!


One can take a horse to a pond –

but can’t make it drink water against its wish!


8 Responses to “Can’t Change”

  1. sengkor Says:

    to change or not to change, that is the question 😛

    yeah, we can’t force anyone to change.. but if we care, we will tell is someone need to change..

    I agree, SK. The end decision belongs to him/her. 🙂

  2. Tine Says:

    Hehe … it’s the same saying we have in Chinese, but it’s a cow, not a horse 😛

    Yeah, it’s an individual choice all right. Other people can advise all they want, but at the end of the day, if you’re not willing to make the change, then no point lah, right?

    Cow, is it? I must remember that. 😛

    Yes, Tine. Any changes, big or small, must come from within the person himself or herself. 😉

  3. tihtahpah Says:

    one should change for themselves and not for their bfs/gfs….a change is good but change for the good of oneself.

    Thanks, TTpah. I have friends whose ordinary friends try to change them. They should only advise & let my friends decide for themselves if they want to change. 🙂

  4. Why is that girl picking that horses nose?
    Or, is that horse eating that little girl?

    Hmmmm, perspective often has a lot to do with how we react to the world.
    Is change necessary at all? What if we change in everyway that we can and the person still isn’t happy?
    Will they make a horse eat us? Or force us to clean a horses nose?

    So, why change unless it is for the better. The person we should change for is us. Not out of selfishness, and not to please others, but to make ourselves a better person all round.
    If we can do that, then the real option the other person has is, ‘Do they wish to be with someone who is trying to be the best person they can?’ If the answer is no, then I’d say, let the person go. The horse wil probably eat them anyway! 🙂

    Thanks for your very interesting comment, Dabs. 🙂
    I agree with you…hmmm.. except for the part where the horse will eat us or them. 😆

  5. Kyels Says:

    It is the truth. You can change no one unless they are willing to change for the better.


    We can only advice them.

    I’m glad you share the same sentiments, Kyels. 🙂

  6. LX Says:

    Change is good and at the same times trepidatious yet exciting. i’ll embrace it at an instance 😉

    Hmmm.. interesting, LX. That’s another new thing I’ve learnt about you. 🙂

  7. Gallivanter Says:

    tihtahpah, you said that “one should change for themselves and not for their bfs/gfs.” I find that statement hilarious coming from you! Hahahahahaha!

  8. merv Says:

    I thought brainwashing and hypnotizing someone is a method for forced change haha =P

    Hmmmmm.. you watched too many movies la, my mate. 😉

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