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April 29, 2008

Be Your Own Person

April 27, 2008

People who say they cannot be their own person usually claim that someone else is keeping them from being themselves.

How can that be true? How can you be anyone but yourself?

When you are afraid to risk, you stop being your own person. Then you become the ward of anyone who will protect you.

Unfortunately, the person who protects you expects you to behave like the person he or she feels you should be, the person he or she rescued you to become.

If you are afraid of being your own person, you’re probably afraid of taking care of yourself or being own your own. If someone should accompany you, fine, but the purpose of choosing your own way is to keep company with your own best, not to rely on the strength of others.

Accept your independence and the loneliness that comes with it by being willing to go it alone, not in defiance, but as a choice.

If you are afraid of being your own person, you are probably afraid of your own anger. You feel you have to hold it in or else you might offend the person you depend on for your survival, or run the risk of being thrown out in the cold if you express yourself.

So you hold your anger inside, and after a time it turns inward. Then you hate yourself for being weak, inferior, not being your own person.

It is a vicious cycle.

You are never trapped if you are your own person.

You may make mistakes, but you are free to correct them.

You may hurt others, but you are able to apologize and deal with their rejection.

You may be hurt, but you feel strong enough to love again.

Save yourself.

Just do what is right for you.

Express yourself.

Find your life and live it.

If you cannot act in your own best interests, you cannot act in anyone else’s.


Being Happy

April 23, 2008

This post is dedicated to a very good friend.

Being happy is liking the way you feel and being open to the future without fear.

Being happy is accepting yourself at this place and time.

Being happy is not being perfect, becoming rich, falling in love, having power, knowing the right people, or succeeding in your job.

Being happy is liking yourself the way you are right now – maybe not all of yourself, but the essential you.

You deserve to love yourself for the way you are at this moment.

If you think you have to be more than you are now to be happy and love yourself, you are imposing impossible conditions on yourself.

Only you know yourself the way you do. You can compile the longest and least sympathetic inventory of your faults. At any time, no matter how successful or accomplished you become, you will be able to undermine your happiness by reciting this list of faults.

Know your faults but do not allow their existence to become an excuse for not loving yourself just the way you are.

Our Beautiful Earth

April 22, 2008

Take nothing but pictures.
Leave nothing but footprints.
Kill nothing but time.
~Motto of the Baltimore Grotto, a caving society~

A few more Good Thoughts

April 20, 2008

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