October 16, 2009
October 12, 2009
No one wants to hear it.
When you complain, you just anger others.
Complaining is always hurtful because it adds stress and pressure to an already problematic situation.
Others have a gut reaction to your complaining. It grates on their nerves. They want to shut you off and push you away.
Complainers are like childish passengers, continually whining, “Are we there yet?” They aggravate others by increasing stress and frustration and by creating distracting resentment that interferes with productivity.
It is no wonder that complaining makes you seem inadequate and damages your credibility.
People complain most about what they don’t want to do or feel they can’t do for themselves. So complaining also shows that you are not in charge and reveals your lack of patience and inability to act for yourself.
Complaining creates the wrong atmosphere for making a change.
It is better to ask a question couched in friendly and helpful terms such as, “Is there any way I can help?” Every complaint can be rephrased in this way.
If you complain when someone asks you to do something, it spoils the effect of doing what you’ve been asked.
When you complain, you are really protesting against your own powerlessness and helplessness.
The weaknesses you can’t face in yourself are what you complain about most in others.
I take responsibility for my life.
I have the power to make things better.
I always have a choice.
October 9, 2009
October 5, 2009
This is not about being a do-gooder.
It is about being smart, efficient and productive.
It is about making your life easy.
When you look for the good in others, they show it to you.
When you appreciate their worth, others find it easy to be their best.
When you accept others, they do not fear rejection. They show their strengths instead of concealing their weaknesses. They act confident instead of afraid.
Other people want someone to notice that they are good and valuable. They want to belong and be thought of as special.
They need someone to believe in them.
Looking forthe good is that belief.
Look for the good in the other person, especially when he or she has been troublesome, did wrong, or is on probation. Do not ignore his or her problems, but continue to encourage the good.
Anyone who doubts can find failings.
Finding the good takes belief.
When you bring out the good in someone, you often discover a powerful ally, a loyal worker, a true friend.
The search for the good is its own reward.
The discovery of that good is never forgotten.
When you look for the good in others, you often discover your own best and find another reason to believe in yourself.
~ I rejoice in all the good I discover ~