“Meet with self”

May 31, 2010

This post is inspired from a recent conversation with a friend who is in her late forties.

“Did it really take more than forty years to learn that I am not made of iron? Yes, it did. Before that I thought I was invincible. I was the first to arrive and the last to leave. If I’m due at work at 8:00 a.m., I’m there at 7:30. I don’t like to hit the ground running. I like to get where I’m going and have time to segue from personal to professional life. I call it ‘having my moment‘. By being early, I have time to relax my body and mind and start my activity from a centered place.”

Her work style was also aggressive. “Get ahead” was her tune. She didn’t realize that the more work she took on, the more her associates were willing to step back and let her wore herself out. She wondered how the others found time to hang out by the water cooler and the coffee room several times a day. She quoted an old saying that goes, “If you put your hand in a bucket of water, splashed it around, and caused waves, everyone paid attention to you. But when you took your hand out of the bucket of water, it became calm and still, and no one is indispensable – and that anyone can make a splash”.

Now I am asking myself how do I find time in my busy schedule. Here’s what I will do. Firstly, I will take my appointment book, and block out some time. I will put down “Meet with self”. I will schedule myself into a personal meeting to chill out. Go to a movie; stay in bed; drive to a park. I will not do anything demanding.

I must learn to pace myself.

I must plan downtime for myself.

“Chill out” will be my tune.