being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect.

it means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.

Happy Me

June 23, 2010

“Women…Don’t aim to be the prettiest woman,

aim to be the HAPPIEST woman!”

~ Dhanti Praspani ~


June 20, 2010

Two heads..

June 11, 2010

Couldn’t you just give yourself a good swift kick? Earlier in life, spur-of-the-moment actions were the natural way to approach things. You skimmed quickly over the situation and snapped to a decision. Should a voice of concern try to intrude into your action, you pooh-poohed it and kept on with your original plan. “Wait, don’t go in that direction,” a little voice would cry out. “I know what I’m doing,” you’d tell yourself, and then bang! The brick wall would rise up out of the blue, and you would crash smack-dab into it.

Years later, after several bumps on the head, you began to learn. The old impatience eased up. Now you ask questions of your trusted friends, such as, “How do you see things? Show me an alternative way.” And you also pause to reflect whenever that little voice cries out. Instead of hitting brick walls, you see a pathway opening through the proverbial sea, and you calmly walk through it intact and unscathed.

What has happened to you? Why, you’ve learned to take in more information – and know that sometimes two heads are better than one.

I will trust my inner voice more


I will invite the opinions of my friends to guide me.

Painting by Pierre-Auguste Renoir (1841-1919)

Do It Now!

June 8, 2010

Did you have big dreams when you just finished your education? To start a career, launch a lifelong relationship. invest in a blue-chip portfolio, or make the world a better place? If you have accomplished even a portion of these dreams, then you are to be congratulated. But if your early dreams now prompt you to smile (or even laugh out loud), then it’s time to rethink things. Women, I believe (although I may be only speaking for myself), should not put things off. Even if their early dreams have faded, they need to act on more modest, realistic plans and get them done.

Frankly, I don’t like dealing with procrastinators. They are a waste of my time and energy. They’re always saying what they have yet to do. They can have all the spare time in the world, but they will still talk about how much they have to do. Why don’t they just do it? But no, they wait until the last minute and then complain of the stress and pressure. Perhaps they love the urgency. Adrenaline is their motivation.

My motivation is the task itself, done in a cool, well-organized manner. Then I’m free, stress free. Tomorrow is not promised, and we’ll all die at some point. When I heard about the death of an old friend recently, I wondered, “Did she get to do all she wanted to accomplish, or did she continue to think a thirty-year plan was realistic?” Sure, many people live longer today, and living to one hundred is more common, but isn’t it kinder to yourself to have short-term goals and the reward of an immediate accomplishment? So whatever it s you’d like to do, do it, and do it now!

I will realize my dreams by making plans and taking action; finishing each step gives me a boost because I no longer have time for procrastination.